There are a few important places that need to be on grain for the proper fit. First is usually center front and center back. When these are on grain everything else falls into place. These two are where beginners should start when plotting out their first garments. These place the grain in line on a few strategic body points where the grain is essential. These are sometimes called "balance points" where the fabric must be on grain for proper fit. Some high-end Vogue patterns used to mark these points with a + plus sign and a finished garment measurement.
Point one is at the apex of the bust, the grain line needs to be parallel and perpendicular to the floor and right on the fullest part of the bust. The skirt point is over a few inches from the side seam on the high hip line. square a line down from the high hip line about three inches from the side seam. This is the grain line and this point on the line will be your grain point where the grain is parallel and perpendicular to the floor. Mark this point on the front of the skirt. For the back grain point match the high hip at the side seam. The hip line must be straight across on the same plane both front and back. Square line down from back high hip line anywhere on the high hipline. On the back of blouses, dresses, jackets and coats there a a couple grain line checkpoints that are not the center back because the center back is often a curved seam for better fit. The peak of the shoulder blade bone needs to be on grain with the weave forming a + plus sign. The back just above the waist dart needs to be on grain. the fabric where the bust line extends across the back needs to be on grain.
One exception: Bias cut garments. In these instances the weave of the fabric on these points must be a X with the grain-line on a 45 degree angle from parallel and perpendicular.
Your question leads me to the conclusion that your pattern making skills are self taught. Your grain line gaps are one of those things that a self learner will waste a lot of time and fabric on trying to noodle out the puzzle. It would be a good idea to get a couple pattern drafting books as these will specify where grain lines are based on the standard guide lines that are drawn out before details are added. These also guide you to where the grain-line goes.
These pattern-making guide lines are always based on body measurements plus fitting ease. Common guidelines are the bust line, waist line, high hip line and low hip line. Two hip lines are essential for a good fit. Length lines that are important are center front neck bases to waist, center back nape to waist, shoulder blade depth, bust point depth, side seam from underarm to waist. Additionally there's the arm crease width, measured on the front from where your arm is joined to the torso across the body and the back width measured across where the arms joins the torso to the The bust, high hip, across the back and across the front are often used as the lines where you square down from to make a grain line.
A book I highly recommend is How to Make Sewing Patterns by Don McCunn. It's a hybrid method that uses drafting and a bit of draping to make a basic block pattern than the home sewing-person can make their own patterns for a variety of clothes. It's aimed at both ordinary people who want to make their own unique clothes an custom dressmakers. Back when I took dressmaking in college this was the book we used.
Pattern making books from fashion schools for those going into the industry are very expensive and way too complex if all you want is cute clothes. These are university level texts that require you to have a professor and grad student tutor to get get the most from the books. The Only college level book that is relevant to a hobby sewer is Metric Pattern Cutting by Winifred Aldrich which is clear, concise and has a large variety of blocks and instructions for turning blocks into garment patterns.
There are more check through amazon.com or go to your local library, they have many of these books so you can read few without spending the ridiculous amount of money some of these books cost.
Grain line placement is a very complex subject and this is barely an overview. I didn't get into the theory of gravitational pull on the warp and weft threads! You will need to do some research on this and it will require some experimentation. Get yourself some cheap pattern maker's muslin: -this is not like muslin bed sheets, pattern maker's muslin is cheap, coarse, unbleached, and not suitable for anything other than experimenting with fit. Next get a scale model dress form -about one quarter or one fifth works. Try draping different grain-lines on the form to see what happens.
I hope this isn't too confusing.There are limits to how much I can put in a yahoo answer so this is barely a start.